5 Reasons Why You Are Not Connecting With Your Friends On Facebook

Wed, Dec 1, 2010

Facebook, Online Marketing

Facebook is social media’s #1 online monster.

Its beating Google and other search engines in traffic. So many people are on Facebook that it can be declared its own country. Facebook is the number one platform people across the globe are using to communicate. Weather you like making Eskimo shoes or you enjoy watching Law & Order reruns Facebook offers you an audience to share your interest with. Social media in general is a platform for any person to be seen and heard.

With Facebook specifically you must follow some simple rules for connecting with your audience. With online marketing and attraction marketing it’s all about connecting with people and building a trusting relationship. That relationship can be monetized on at a later date. You must build a relationship first. Many online marketers know the simple basics of this concept but truly do not take the time to do what it takes to connect with their friends and fans.

Some of you need to go back to the basics with Facebook because there are 5 things that you are doing wrong that is limiting connects you have with your friends. As a marketer you need to keep in mind that your whole purpose for connecting with people is to see if they have a need that you can fill. How you discover that takes time. You want to cultivate, harvest, and then reap. Here are the 5 things that you need to change as you market on Facebook.

1. You’re not sending a message with your friend request.

Facebook allows us to go and get our audience. When you request someone as a friend its important to tell them why they should add you as a new friend. It does not have to be a long thesis statement. A few sentences of what shared interest and/or likes you both have in common.

Example: Hi (Persons Name), Just came across your page and noticed that we both like (interest) and I would like to connect with you. I like meting new people on here and I would like you to add me as a friend.

2. You’re not thanking them for accepting your friend request

Friends are hard to come by even in the online community. Don’t grow numbs to adding new friends to your Facebook list. Personally thanking them for accepting your request adds a touch of appreciation. This can be done with a message or video.

Example: Hi (Persons Name), Thank you for adding me as your new Facebook friend. I really look forward to networking with you and sharing ideas. I post often about (your interest) so look for my information on your newsfeed. Please feel free to IM when you see me online.

3. You’re not starting a conversation

Don’t wait for your new online friend to start a conversation. Starting a conversation immediately shows that are interested in them and want to get to know them better. Talking with your friends will let you know what their needs are and how you can help.

Attach this to your thank you response.

Example: What do you do for a living? or On your profile its says that you work as a (job title), what does that entail?

4. You’re not asking for advice, suggestions, or comments

As you post to Facebook ask your friends for interaction by way of commenting. Be deliberate in stating that you would like their input or feedback on a specific topic. Don’t be afraid to ask your Facebook friends for constructive criticism about yourself.

Example: Hey guys, I’ve been blogging for awhile and I would love to get your opinion about my blog. Visit my blog (website here). Review it and send me any tips, strategies, comments or constructive criticism you may have. I ask because I value your opinion and I want to be the best blogger I can be.

5. You’re not connecting your Facebook friends together

In the book Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuk, he states that social media is like a cocktail party and new relationships are formed at cocktail parties. So consider yourself a host on Facebook. As much as you are thinking of making a connect with your guest AKA your Facebook friend, think about who would they connect well with among your friends. Connecting two people with the same interest will make you stand out as a leader and appear more interested in your Facebook friend.

Example: Hey (Persons Name), I recently connected with (Persons Name) and found out that they also enjoy (same interest). I thought you guys might want to connect. Send them a friend request and let them know I sent you.

Note: All the examples are just that, examples. Please use them as a guideline but construct them in your own words.

These seem like small insignificant strategies but we all know that money is made in the details. Keep in mind that Facebook is an online tool. A way for you to get people interested in what your interested in which is your MLM business. Connecting with your friends and fans on a regular basis is what will ultimately grow your bottom line. If you start doing these 5 things for each and every person that becomes your friend you will start to see a more loyal friends and fan base which means dollars in your pocket.

It should also be said that doing these 5 things just do them will not be as effective if you truly do not care about helping the other person. When I say care I mean connecting with them to see what their needs are first then offering a solution. You are building a business but tap into what people are interested in outside of business. They might be talking about sports, the latest reality show, or just family matters. Either way make a connection on some level before business talks are started.  Start implementing these 5 Facebook strategies and you should start seeing better friend and fan connections. Remember relations first business second!

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Yvar Belotte teaches average everyday people how to succeed online by earning income while learning Internet Marketing in the areas of Blogging, Video Marketing, Article Marketing, SEO, Social Media and much more. Personal development also plays a large role in her business because she believes the biggest investment one can make is on their mind. If you are like Yvar and have an entrepreneurial heart and you are determined to reach financial freedom this year, learn more about how easy it is to earn and learn online!

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11 Responses to “5 Reasons Why You Are Not Connecting With Your Friends On Facebook”

  1. Mark Says:

    Brilliant! If you only did half of what Yvar shares you will stand out as someone who actual cares. Great share.



  2. Viviann Says:

    These are good and important points. They can’t be emphasized too much. Do you have more suggested scripts, especially for #5?


  3. Kimberly Flores Says:

    A cocktail party, what a concept. thanks for the tip.


  4. Jym Says:

    Hi Yvar,

    Great steps to making Facebook work for you. It’s all about the relationships and making the most of each opportunity to connect, find common ground, and add value.
    Awesome outline of the essentials of Facebook Marketing for MLM.



  5. Bill Shoemaker Says:

    Great infio Yvar, Looks like I am going to have to put my facebook face on and start doing the right things 🙂
    Thank you
    Bill Shoemaker


  6. jaime Says:

    This is an excellent post. This refresher is what most people out networking need to revisit form time to time


  7. Matson Magleby Says:

    Yvar, I really liked this post. It was not things that I hadn’t heard before, but it was a good reminder that I have slacked on some of those things.


  8. Sherman Smith Says:

    Hi Yvar,

    Now this was an excellent post to follow. Definitely there is a certain facebook etiquette to follow in order to grow your network here in order to grow your business. Thanks for sharing!!



  9. belotte Says:

    Great post, also good reminder about some basics of social networking


  10. Samuel Says:

    Awesome post!
    Yeah, you are right. You don’t just people on facebook just for the sake of increase your friends list. You must chat with them, so as to get to know each other. I hope you get what I’m trying to say? Thanks so much for sharing. Have fun.


  11. Nelly Paekukui Says:

    Hi Yvar,

    This is a great post here and something that I’d like to post on my fan page to share.



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